Holding the stupid door

Published on August 7, 2008 By DorkCoffeez In Blogging

Rants from the bag

Hello there,

If you know me personally you will know me for my rants. If you know me only digitally you have not been exposed to one of my rants. I will demonstrate one of them for you now.

Holding the door; when did this become an offense to people?

Today I went for some coffee to start up my morning. A woman was walking behind me that I suspected was in her late 60s. I pulled the door open and stepped aside to let her in. She smiled at me and thanked me. It was simple and it was polite. Emboldened by this I tried to do the same when I left for a woman in her 30s. This time I got a "Huff" sound and a mean look. I was shocked enough that no sneering remark of my own came to mind. With a polite gesture I had labeled myself a sexist? In less than 5 minutes my day's great start went to craptastic.

I am all for women's rights. I enforce it even, dragging rules around demanding equal treatment. Here is a fact, I open doors for everyone, or do that stupid lean where you just push it open an extra foot by falling off balance in the maneuver I label "polite cltuz". I didn't do it because you are a woman, child, cripple, political leader, mime, puppy, or clone of Hitler himself. I just did it to be nice. Don't mistake my kindness for weakness though.

I see that woman again I'm holding the door only till she is in striking distance. There is my equal treatment.

-My Chi is trying to help.

Comments

CharlesCS

on Aug 07, 2008

I know what you mean. I work in an office where 90% of the employee's are women. Talk about walking on glass. I have to watch every word I say otherwise I will be shredded to pieces by a mob of women or will be the laughing stock for days to come.

I am very polite and do this like hold the door or elevator for both men and women. I always try to let the ladies be first in and first out because it's how I was raised. I like treating women good, makes me feel good as well and I figre they like it, but like you, I come across one here and there that sees my actions as some kind of insult to her femininehood.I don't care though, I did my part and if they don't like it, they can kiss my American born A$$.

Boudica

on Aug 07, 2008

I consider myself a feminist and have no problem with anyone, male or female, holding the door for me. I think it's just common courtesy. I would hold the door for someone regardless of whether they are a man or woman, especially if I saw them struggling with something.

Jythier

on Aug 07, 2008

I shut doors purposefully in front of all women I see. I am a Champion of a woman's right to open a door. Woman carrying a giant suitcase?
"Let me just shut that door for you."
"Oh thank you so much, how did you know I was a radical feminist?"

I hold the door open for guys though. They don't seem to have any problem with it. They even, sometimes, say "Thanks."

Texas Wahine

on Aug 07, 2008

Kick his ass, Seabass. LOL.

I am an equal opportunity door-holder-opener and appreciate when someone does the same for me. In fact, if I am struggling and you don't bother holding the door open for me, I'm probably going to say, "Thanks, asshole!"

I think it's common courtesy and not even a male/female issue.

CharlesCS

on Aug 08, 2008

I'm probably going to say, "Thanks, asshole!

Oh, I have seen that happen before and how funny it can be. It's even more funy when the guy being called an a$$hole actually hears it and feels like an idiot by the look on his face. Classic.

CharlesCS

on Aug 08, 2008

Jytheir

You are so cruel. How could you simply hold the door for guys and not have a beer or something to give out as well?

Jythier

on Aug 08, 2008

You are so cruel. How could you simply hold the door for guys and not have a beer or something to give out as well?

I didn't want to mention it, so as to not make any of you guys who I can't open doors for jealous.

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